What can be more painful than our own self being at war with itself? A fight that includes constant criticism, pressure, anger, anxiety and endless cruel comparisons – a fight in which we struggle to be in high spirits, a struggle that keeps us from seeing our own self from knowing who we really are. A broken relationship can cause so much damage to us but are we really worth it, is the thing need to seriously pondered.

One word that enters my mind when I try to think of an answer to this is ‘Self Esteem’. If you try to massacre your own understanding of the self you are suffering from low self esteem.

 I understand your reason of getting into the dumps can be most genuine but nothing in the world and I mean NOTHING should have the capacity to bring you down in spirits.

Let’s first know what self esteem is!

Self esteem means your perception about your own self. Self- Esteem means the way you look at your own self. ‘Esteem’ ideally means to value, think and believe that something or someone is of great importance. And when you start feeding yourself with thoughts that make you feel less valuable or unimportant, you start suffering from what is called ‘low self esteem’.

However, the good news is that you can kick this state to lead a healthy life, full of vibrance, confidence and happiness unbound. And the fact of the matter is, it is only in your hands to expel it from your life and nobody else’s.

The first thing you need to do is understand that you deserve you be as happy as anyone else. No one should have any control over your suffering or happiness because it’ll be like your inner self being regulated by someone outside of you which is not right. Make yourself so strong that even if anyone says or does anything to you, you don’t stop savoring life’s good because that is how it is meant to be. Now this is not as easy a task but the ice has to be broken somewhere. Since you have developed in an habit of dwelling in negativity since long, it has made you so comfortable that coming out of it will cause you great effort and in other words, trouble.

The first step in this regard is to determine what you want from life. Do you want to spend the rest of your life victimizing yourself or do you want to live a life in which you feel extremely happy and secured from within? If your answer is the obvious, stop feeling sorry for yourself in the first place. Engage yourself in some work and work towards bringing out positive results from it. You’ll see that the moment results in your work field start coming out, your confidence in life and in yourself will start building up.

Just have faith and you’ll see that you never have to look back again in life! Wish you all sunshine and happiness!

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